One of the first choices you will be asked to make is that of funeral arrangements.  Funeral homes and Cremation Centers are staffed with compassionate people that understand your needs and emotional state of mind.  They will work with you to fully answer your questions on what type of service will best meet the needs of you and your loved one.  The funeral home staff should also be able to answer additional questions you may have related to death certificates and life insurance needs.  This is also a time to consider remembrance items, such as a lock of hair or a finger/toe/handprint.  Considering this may be a very sensitive time for you, it is suggested you invite a trusted family member or friend to go with you to this meeting.  They can take notes and ask questions that you may not think of at the moment. 

Because it is a death by suicide, there may be different opinions within the family on how the death will be discussed publicly and at the funeral.  It is important that these differences be respected to help curtail further stress and/or conflict.  For those families wanting to work toward ending the stigma of mental health and suicide, it is becoming more customary for the family to mention the manner of death in the obituary.  The family may also designate a suicide related charity as a way to pay respects to your loved one in lieu of flowers. 

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Be prepared to discuss the death of a loved one by suicide with children in your family or community.  Children may have questions before, during and after the end-of-life service.  Supporting them through the experience with easy to understand words and facts can be beneficial to them.  You can find out more on Children and Grief  here.